Thread: Off-Topic Why DEATH - I Need Advice

My 22 y/o nephew was hit by a car and died. The woman that hit him was only 21 y/o and was speeding through a private neighborhood. I am in a state of shock as well as my other family. How do you cope with the loss of someone you love? So young and innocent.....truly one of the good ones. There is a hole in my heart where his hugs and kisses used to fill. I haven't slept in days and his funeral is today but I decided not to go. I'm tryna lose myself but nothing is working. Sorry if this is off-topic , guess I just needed to vent. Any advice on coping with this type of grief

I am so, so sorry for your loss Monet. I truly am. Loosing someone you love is never easy, and it never gets easier. I have lost loved ones in my time and someone to talk to, confide in and just have a general laugh and chat with can make the world of difference. This may sound weird but talking to someone online that you'll never meet really helps. Because you don't have to feel ashamed of anything you say to them.
Being around your close friends helps because no matter what, they will find a way to cheer you up.

Hope this helps you Monet in this difficult time. I'm truly sorry to you and your family

If you need to talk to someone just pm me. Honestly i'll be glad to help

Sam

I'm only 23 but I've lost a few people close to me now. The last person I lost was a friend I grew up with, he hung himself at 21. A great sadness still wells up in me when I think of the waste of life and of his family but I try and concentrate on the fun times and memories we had together. It never really goes away, but in time you will learn to cherish the moments you had together without feeling sad.

It's fine if you don't, different people deal with things different ways, but if I were you I'd go to the funeral. I felt the same way as you but I ended up going and it made me happy to be around my friends, to see how loved and cared for he was and it gave me closure which helped me a great deal.

My heart weeps at your loss, Monet - existence is an endless cycle of life and death. Even at birth, every second brings us closer to death - it is natural and every other human being must confront it sometime in their life, you sooner than others, I'm afraid.

As a Christian, I believe death is more like a beginning than an end, a pathway into the realm of God, heaven - that which is perfect and eternal - that is how I cope with death and I hope you can relate to that. That is my advice to you, friend, but chances are everyone will deal with death differently.

Mourn. Mourning is a healing process - you come together with all your loved ones, and you reminiscence those cherished moments together. Carve those memories it your heart so that when you live, you live for the both of you. Live for him and he shall live on in you.

God bless you with strength and wisdom to pull through. Peace be with you brother.

EDIT: Danz "but if I were you I'd go to the funeral." I think you might have misread his post - the funeral is past and while I know you mean well, telling him he should have gone does not really help. Look, Monet, theres no shame whatsoever about not going today - there are stronger people out there that have done the same. If anything it means you were all that much close to him that the grief was so unbearable - Like I said, remember and remember well all that your love for him meant and live life with that radiating from you - Im sure he'd been glad to have changed your life for the better good.

Monet aren't you a girl. Sorry to post this but i think it should be addressed before someone becomes offended.

Honestly Monet if you need to talk about it or just need someone to talk anything please get in touch with me. I know how lonely you can feel in a time like this. Although your family is going through the same process you may still feel like your alone. And that can make the grieving process so much harder.

When i lost my grandfather. I felt that going to college rather than staying at home really helped. I told none of my friends about my loss until i felt that i could. As soon as i got to college all my worries, pain, sadness just disappeared. Going to work or just hanging round with your friends has the exact same effect.

Obviously everyone is different and everyone handles death differently. So its just finding what helps you with the grieving process.

Sam

well, few years ago I lost my biggest friend - my father. I cried every night. and I still do. It's not just a hole. it's like someone've cut a part of my heart and thrown away.
I know how painfull it is. But believe, the truth is obvious - time heals all wounds. you will still think about him all the time, but with less pain.

JiJi can you please remove the p.s. from your message. Its already been said on here and your more likely to hurt Monet than make her feel any better.

And yeah its true, overtime it'll get easier. Not becuase you'll forget but you'll learn how to control your emotions and deal with it

Sorry for your loss Monet, we all are. I don't think this is the best place though to look for advice. I would suggest you talk to the poeple that you are closest in real life so that you can grieve together. We hope for the best for you and your family and of course your nephew.

Sorry for your loss monet. Yesterday a very very close friend of mine had an accident. He got hit by a truck and he lay there in the ditch for 2 hours. You know being a Pakistani has some drawbacks like no 911 or emergency help. Then he transfered into a hospital where as usual as nobody knew who he was nobody took care of him until somehow someone contacted their family... When we rushed to the hospital what i saw was beyond anything comprehensible, his entire nose, jawbone, cheek bone everything was broken... he had internal bleeding in his lungs and all his ribs and leg was fractured... and the doctors were not even attending him properly.
he is still on ventilator and in coma, the doctors say he will not be out of danger for the next 48 hours... seeing him lie down like that made me realize that how short life is, he is just 28, he has a 2 year old son and 1 month old daughter... i could not even conceive what his wife would be going through.... it is during this difficult time when we are totally broken that we have to be strong not for ourselves but for our loved one who need someone there to support them to hug them and tell them things will get okay..... i know your loss is great but u need to be there for your family and loved one for moral support....

and beside me and i can bet everybody here is also there for you... if you need to share or need to talk to me you can always send me a message and i will be there for you

i am so sorry for your loss and i will pray during my prayers for you, your family and your nephew... May God always be there with you.