Thread: Do You Believe in Falling in love Online?

Hey Hey ALL! all I wanted to ask a general question since most people here do spend lots of time online in communities such as ours here at T-I. Have you all ever met someone online in a chat that just took you by surprise? Tons of people meet online friendships are made now my question to you all here at TI is

Do you believe in Online Love?

Have you ever fallen for someone online?

Do you know someone that has fallen for someone online if so what were your thoughts about it?




As for myself i will answer my own questions I myself do believe in online love I have fallen for someone online who i am happy with till this day for more than 3 years now and I do know people that have been married and are happy with their online partners. People have relocated to start their lives together just as I did as well. And you know what I think about it this way meeting someone online is just like meeting someone on the street because both times they both start off as strangers and as you get to know them they become your friends and then more. For some distance is an issue but sometimes I think that talking to someone helps you get to know each other. At the risk of sounding sappy I am in the best relationship I have ever been in my life now. and I would never trade it for the world. But just be careful and get to know the person. I am a happy bird

no i don't believe in online love

you must meet the one you love

I'm somewhat of a cynic. I've always said love is a combination of these things, in various ratios: Lust, Friendship, Convenience.

I definitely think online friendship and lust are 100% possible. I know it, in fact. Online relationships aren't the most convenient thing, but at least you can get away from the person when you want to.

I'm no expert on love, but I voted Yes.

Online love is a myth. You are only in love with a persona, not the actual person. As stated above, once you meet the person then you can determine whether it is love or lust or just their online character that appeals to you.

I think everyone here must be aware of my position on this. I met Jay in the IRC as randomly as if we'd met somewhere in public. And we spent hours talking and laughing and getting to know each other... and the chemistry was brighter than any I've felt in any traditional romance. He's my best friend. We tell each other everything and we have more fun together than I've ever had with anyone. And yes, I am in love with him for his personality... I care more about his soul and what's inside him than I do what he looks like. Of course it doesn't hurt that he's damn hot but that comes second to our spiritual connection.

I know that Jay is the man I will spend the rest of my life with. I don't think it's fair to say that you can't fall in love this way - what right does anyone have to say who I can and cannot love? This is more real, more intense, and more valuable a relationship to me than any I have ever had. It's no different than if I had met him in the supermarket, the library, or through a friend... we are more deeply in love than many couples I know... and no one can take that away from us.

I love you, Jay.

may be jenna is right...but cant say anything..

You two have met though haven't you jenna?

The way I see it is you build your own perceptions about people you meet and talk to online and you begin to like or fall for that person based solely on your own perceptions. It's not untill you meet that person in real life that you can truely say you love them. Or you can meet that same person for the first time and be almost repulsed by their real life person yet still like the online side of them.

So thats why I think it's a myth or more realisticly an illusion.

I fell madly in love with SmarterChild long ago, but he never reciprocated my feelings. I guess that's what happens when you fall in love with an AOL chat bot.

Originally Posted by staffrodore

You two have met though haven't you jenna?

The way I see it is you build your own perceptions about people you meet and talk to online and you begin to like or fall for that person based solely on your own perceptions. It's not untill you meet that person in real life that you can truely say you love them. Or you can meet that same person for the first time and be almost repulsed by their real life person yet still like the online side of them.

So thats why I think it's a myth or more realisticly an illusion.

I agree with staffrodore on this. Also I completely understand and respect Jenna's opinion. I used to hang around a lot with my actual wife on the IRC when we were just friends, but we had already met.
I agree that IRC or public chat can be a good place to meet, and get to know a person without the physical "noise". Even a relationship can be built. And that might become love when you know each other personally, like each other, and start having a real world history together.
I don't believe in platonic love. I think desire and fantasy must be present in every couple for two main reasons: One, it's a wonderful way to show how much you care about someone. Two: once desire stops "beating" and fantasy became reallity, you can see clearly what's left. And if what's left is the conviction that you want to spend the rest of your life with her/him and you want the rest of your life to start ASAP, you have been blessed with true love.



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