Thread: Is it possible to fall in love with someone that you've never met?

I simply do not know my position on this.

I greatly believe that until you experience someone personally where you can touch, smell, see, etc. the kind of person they are you cannot fully fall in love. Until then, it seems to be all fantasies. Part of falling in love for me has always been enjoying how the other person reacted to certain situations, their facial expressions, memories and events we share, and romantic/close moments. Of course a person's personality is the most important feature to me, but their physical attributes (not necessarily just speaking about looks, but more of what I mentioned before about facial expressions and such) also play a large part in how I view a person.

But this always makes me wonder, if this is really the case then does that mean if someone was blind, deaf, armless (unable to touch), or a combination of these - would it make it more difficult for them to fully experience love?

When you're dating someone online, you're excluding the physical aspects of the relationship and you really are focusing purely on the personality of a person. That being said, what you write isn't always a direct look into the kind of person you are. Besides the fact that it's easy to show only one side of yourself on the internet, more than once I've been slightly confused by speaking to people that I was very attracted to in real life and then speaking to them over the internet and finding their writing style annoying or something.

If you believe it is possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them, to what extent do you think this is true? Could they fall in love without ever even hearing eachother's voices, or in extreme cases without even ever speaking directly with them (much like the Neutral Milk Hotel/Anne Frank love story)?

the definiton of "in love" is different for everybody.
my take is when you are involved with someone, and are exposed to all their little faults and idosyncrasies, and grow to love them,
tells me that my feelings for that person have been taken to a higher level.
as to your question, " falling in love with someone you've never met"?
i just cant see it happening.
but you never know:)

I don't think this is possible. I understand what you are saying about the personality, but I find that you can learn so much more about a persons personality... well, in person. Some people are more awkward or shy in person than on the internet. Plus you don't get to see if you have that all important chemistry by chatting online.

Have any of you seen Borat? He fell in love by watching TV.

Seriously though, I believe you need to meet someone to fall in love.

I am of the opinion that there is no way for you to claim you love a person if you never physically met the person. Love may not means the same thing for everyone but for you to have the emotional bond with another individual you must co mingle and see if you can get along with one another and the only way that is possible is through interaction

i think you can be obsessed with a person without having met them, but actual love i think requires meeting in person. on the other hand, its possible to go for years without seeing someone and still be in love with them.

No, you cant.
If one matures a bit and has a few serious relationships this will become obvious.

You can be in love with the IDEA of someone you haven't met. Undoubtedly they will never meet your expectations. No one is perfect for each other. Die alone.

ive never considered myself in love with this girl, but we have forged a weird near-decade long friendship now exclusively online. we met on soulseek over a mutual appreciation for mr. show and her then mind numbingly fast t1 connection. i used to refer to her jokingly as my internet girlfriend and will admit to being naively smitten at the beginning. but i was very young then and the world seemed very small then. to be honest im not sure i want to meet her now. i mean i feel i know her very well, even better than some of my real life friends, i just feel this image in my head would be shattered if we were to meet and the overall experience would just be super awkward. so to answer your question, no, i dont think its possible to be in love with someone youve never met in person. its the dealing with all the other day to day shit that shapes a relationship.