Thread: Cheating

Would you/ have you ever cheated on a partner? Could you ever see yourself cheating? How far along a relationship before you are absolutely not willing to cheat?



Do you think that cheating is an absolute act of betrayal or that sometimes things just happen and just having sex doesn't necessarily mean you have any emotional attachment to the person? (i.e. it was a mistake but I only ever had feelings for the person I cheated on)

Would you convince another person to cheat on their partner if you had feelings for them or do you think that doing so would ensure they never had any feelings for you other than sexual.

My friend once brought up another interesting question: if you met someone tomorrow who had exactly the same personality as your current partner but was better looking would you stay with what you currently have or move to the new person (assuming you can do either).

Lets hear some thoughts.

It depends from person to person.

Personally If I had a girlfriend who cheated on me, it would depend, how long i have been with her, what kind of relationship we developed, who has she cheated on me with etc etc.

There are many different factors that affect my decision, but if I was in love and all over her, while she cheated on me with someone else, I would consider that betrayal, and dont think that anything would fix it.
Also If I had feelings for some girl who is already in relationship, I wouldnt convince her to cheat on her partner, but let her decide weather she wants to break up with him, and try new relationship with me, or not.

If She is married, doesnt matter what side I am standing on, she is off limits to anyone except her husband.

@PROXIE : Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and live life the way they want to. Even though I have a different stand point doesn't mean that mine is right or think your view is wrong. I find it refreshing to see someone post views like that.

Personally I'm happy with who I am with and don't see myself cheating on her.

Maybe it depends if you've found the right person?

I got some principles and on top of them is : not a traitor
Although this principle has a solid base on my mind, after reading Dante Aligheri - Divina Comedia, it became unyielding. In Dante's view, Hell has 9 levels. On the 9th level lay the traitors !!
The answers for any kind of question on this matter are obvious :)

I have never cheated on my soon-to-be-wife. I have never cheated on anyone. I always told myself that I find cheaters to be terrible people.

Then i had some friends cheat on their wives and I had some situations that I really COULD have cheated and changed my mind a little bit. I of course dont find cheaters to be "bad people" but I do think mistakes can happen if people put themselves in bad situations.

I go over-board at my work with women whom I work with. I don't eat lunch with just them, I try not to schedule meetings with just them out-of-town, etc....friends of mine did not do this and it cost them

Cheating would be like a dream... FOREVER ALONE

No but seriously I had say there is nothing wrong with cheating, since there should be a reason for someone to do it. mayhaps you have'nt found the one, or you actually wasn't in lvoe to begin with.

Also I douph you would fine 2 person with the same personality and traits but IF you did, it would count as morally wrong to "trade up" from my point of view atleast.