Thread: "Manners" I get laughed at

It's four AM in the morning where I'm located, and my senior year of High-School starts in another four.

This isn't really a well put together thought, but, I think I have a valid question for you guys!

Just the other day I was with a few friends driving to my local store and as I pull into the parking area for customers; I happen to find another vehicle wanting my targeted parkiing space. So, I decide to be nice and look elsewhere. My friends not being happy about me choice of choosing a competition free space, farther away from the entrance; they bag on me for being a push-over, saying I need to "grow a pair," "man up." Later during the visit I see an item that my buddies an I agree would go well with the dish that we plan to cook later in the evening, being the only one left I cease to attain control of my store buggie and scurry to nab up the prize I sought to recieve. No, an elderly couple; probably the ones from the paring lot explain they need this for a wedding, so, me being of well teaching, mannered, and hospitality, I merilly give the product to the recipients. I return to my anxious and quite angry friends, explaining to them -

"I couldn't help it. They were attending a wedding tomorrow evening."

"Yeah, well guess you being the **** push-over you are; you don't realise the idea of taking the moment, or lavishing in well planned timing."



"I think you've got it ass backwards, I'm the one with the manners here."

All of which my friend proceeded to laugh at me, call me a few select names, and carry on with the shoppnig. My friends and I then go to my home, I start cooking, and they dip on me. I'm left with a few bent thoughts, an excellent dinner, and an episode of my favorite television program. Thinking to myself now; the food most likely tasted better without the dish I invested time in giving away. I'm also glad I made those decisions that day.

What do manners mean to you? Why do you think I got laughed at?

Your friends laughed at you because you are at high school, but as you go through life that will change. You will gain far more through good manners than you will lose. When people are treated respectfully, they are far more likely to help you out when you need it, even strangers.

When you get into the workplace you will see that selfish, rude people get screwed over big time, and often don't even realise it is happening. While back I was at a company sales conference. This guy from another office, who was aggressive and rude, was complaining about response times from different departments and how long they take to process paperwork. He thought the crappy lead times were what everyone experienced, I laughed to myself, but didn't tell him, that the same people turned everything around for me the same day I submitted it.

Just make sure you don't confuse good manners with meekness. You can be both polite and assertive at the same time.

As only a senior in high school and with the behavior you displayed I commend you. You're young and still have a lot of life experiences ahead of you that you're going to learn from and I think with that you'll probably be a decent person. Without personally knowing your circle of friends I'd pretty much say they're a bunch of young punks. We were all young once and if acting like a bunch of dicks was a part your maturity then hopefully it's a phase you can expect to grow out of. But if uncomfortable situations like this occur often then it's probably because your friends are just busting your balls 'cuz you let 'em. You're gonna have to decide for yourself if they're simply going overboard for kicks at your expense or if they truly are your real friends to the end.

hi ekline, i think you very well shown through your actions and thoughtfulness what manners mean :)
thank you Arakasi and P2P_seeder for great posts
A elder once told me show me your friends and I will tell you who you are!
I think your friends laughed at you just to look cool , but i wouldn't worry about it, not everyone is the same,
so as long as you go home at the end of the day feeling good and happy with your accomplishments then that is all that matters

no offence but i would say your friends are dickheads

that being said tho i wonder what they would have done if they was in your position and not just watching from the sidelines. I doubt they would have acted the way they say they would and they are sayin they would since they are at the age where you try to act like a "big man"

they are prob just giving you shit joking around in a way i wouldnt really pay very much attention to it and honestly i wouldnt really call what you said manners its more just common decency

i deal with people like them almost every day and honestly as others have said before acting the way they do gets you nowhere in life and generally if you treat people well then they will treat you well, of course dont be a doormat and still be assertive and get what you want but dont stress over the small things

from your post i can tell you dont stresss over the small things and im sure your going to do very well

LOL high school behavior. People get laughed at for nice things they do while others who are extremely sloppy and do the weirdest things will be lauded. It'll all change eventually.

TL;DR being nice and showing common decency means being ditched by people labeled as friends.

are you sure they're your friends? seems like you are surrounding yourself with people that aren't as well-mannered as you are. sure, its high school behavior but there are also plenty of people your age that act just as mature as you did. but you don't seem like you worry too much about that kind of stuff and if so, good for you. looks like you're going to do well in life

this is a dog eat dog world. manners are on a major decline. to hell with your friends, all that matters is what you felt about your own actions. not to make a mountain out of a mole hill, but it worries me, in which direction this world is goin in. morality and civility are going out the window.

Good manners are taught and learned and I commend you just for the fact that your peers think otherwise and you stuck by your belief.
It doesn't hurt to go out of your way to say please, thank you or show respect to others.
As we get older (says Methusela here!) we experience lots of things that makes you question your actions but be true to yourself and if it feels right and good....do it!

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